Family is the foundation for all human society, and is also made up of its constituent parts. I have been blessed with two different types of family experience. As a child I grew up in a blended family which according to Webster is “a family that includes children of a previous marriage of one spouse or both” (Merriam-Webster). My blended family was made up of my stepdad, mother, 2 stepsisters, 1 step-adopted sister, 2 step-adopted brothers, a half-brother, a brother, and two sisters.
Even in such a busy family unit, God has purpose. Through our bond with each other, we continue to minister to each other and to provide a witness to the world around us. We don’t always handle things perfectly, but when all is said and done, we are still family. I have tried to use the lessons my stepdad taught me in conjunction with the Biblical principles instilled in me to provide my nuclear family some of the same wonderful experiences my blended family offered.
As a husband and dad, I am now part of a nuclear family. The dictionary says the nuclear family is “a family group that consists only of parents and children” (Merriam-Webster). There are 3 main member types that make up the nuclear family. A spouse, parent, and child. When my wife and I entered into this agreement, just like with Christ, we entered a covenant with one another. Unlike a contract, a covenant leaves room for forgiveness and mercy.
The bible says that I as the husband am to love my wife, “even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;” (KJV, Eph. 5.25). When I do forgive and love my wife the way Christ forgave and loves the church, I am not just doing what the Lord has told me to, I am fulfilling my part of the covenant that we entered almost 20 years ago. As in my relationship with Christ, I have been the recipient of forgiveness and mercy far more that the giver.
“Nuclear family.” The Merriam-Webster.com Dictionary, Merriam-Webster Inc., Accessed 28 November 2019.
“Blended family.” The Merriam-Webster.com Dictionary, Merriam-Webster Inc., Accessed 28 November 2019.The Holy Bible. King James Version, Homan Bible Publishers, 1987.
This was written for a school project at Regent University.
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